MCC - Muslim Community Center for Human Services

Assalamo Aleykum,

Eid Mubarak!

On behalf of Muslim Community Center for Human Services, please accept our sincere Eid Greetings. I hope you will have an enjoyable Eid celebration.

I am pleased to say that MCC for Human Services continues to offer services at the free clinic, help line for non-emergency calls, domestic violence project, and educational programs. With the grace of God, we have started a new project, focusing on healthy marriages. The purpose of this project is to offer some educational programs on improving the communication skills so that the married couple engage in healthy communication without escalation and without using humiliating words. I am sure with some understanding and practice, the marital life can be more pleasant and productive.

A radio program has been started on Radio Hum Tum 700 AM every Monday between 12 p.m. and 1 p.m. The program offers techniques to enhance communication skills and it is presented with light humor and entertainment so that we can keep the listener's attention on the subject. Gradually the program is becoming popular and we are receiving increased number of questions related to this subject. Mrs. Najma Ghouse and Dr. Basheer Ahmed have been presenting this program. The program is sponsored by Rehan Siddiqui of Hum Tum radio.

An interactive seminar on enhancing marital relationship is being prepared for the young couples to present the techniques to enhance the marital relationship. The first presentation will be made in December 2006 free of charge as it is supported by a grant from Texas Healthy Marriage Healthy Families Coalition.

For further information on these projects, please contact MCC for Human Services at (817)-589-9165.

Quran says, "And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them and He has put love and mercy between you. Verily, in that are signs for those who reflect (30:20)

At this happy occassion of Eid, I am sharing with you:

Ten Golden Rules to Keep Marriages Healthy and Happy

1. Keep spouse informed: inform spouse of what is happening in your life and inform spouse of your schedule
2. Help your spouse, especially when he or she is working hard on a project. It conveys sensitivity and devotion.
3. Communication: regularly taking time to talk and explore feelings, spend 30 minutes each week not focusing on work or controversial issues.
4. Non sexual affection: Affectionate, nonsexual touching reaffirms the emotional bond.
5. Elimination of irritating habits. Recognize what is irritable to your spouse and change the habit even if you do not see it as important.
6. Apologies: no one is perfect, yet many men and women hide behind false pride by never admitting that they have been wrong. It is a sign of strength to personally acknowledge a mistake or when you have hurt your spouse's feelings to directly and sincerely say, "I am sorry", it is also a sign of being caring.
7. Calmly disagreeing: You do not have to agree with each other on all matter but you must have a capability to resolve the differences of opinions.
8. Loneliness: Loneliness is the most troublesome and uncomfortable feeling a couple has when they have drifted apart. Loneliness is a psychological despair due to a sense of not being understood or accepted by those you care about. Make every effort to prevent this from happening.
9. Attempt to make sure changes have overcome the fear of change. Change of any kind is uncomfortable and with practice the discomfort will disappear.
10. Influence of peers: Relatives and friends with whom you share your problems may not support the changes you are bringing in yourself. You must do what is right for your marriage even if you must stand alone.

Once again, MCC Board conveys their best wishes at the occassion of Eid-ul-Fir and thanks you for your continued support of MCC projects.